respect to the elderly

there are 2 versions about the respects to the elderly.

The first is, the West version, there is no respect to the elderly. We call the elderly by the name, we are set free once we are 18 years old. Separated from our parents to wonder the world and this is the time of 'freedom', that you are completely matured. Once you are married, there is no way you are going to be together with your parents. And then when the elderly are old and unable to take care of themselves, the elderly will go to the 'home'. They complain and cry but, it's no use, the children are too busy taking care of themselves, let alone taking care of their parents. Until they die.

The East version: parents are our great teacher. We have titles for each one of us. We are never quite separated from parents even when we are 18 years old. We always have them remind us about things. When we are married, we also consult our parents about who is suitable for us to marry, in the old times, they even have complete dictatorship about who we are about to marry, and it would be quite normal. Parents are our great library of experience. No matter how smart we are, the elderly will be much more experienced because they always older and more experienced than we are. When they get old, we don't put them in a 'home'. They live with us, we take care of them, and they even may give us input again and again, and will continue to give us advice even until we get old and until they die. We love our parents, and we want them to be around, all the time.

Which version suit you?

In my experience, your friends cannot be trusted to take care of you. Only your close family can take care of you. This is my personal experience, and I've learnt it the hard way. Therefore, family is always number one. Just like China said, and nobody can deny that. But to a society where parents are meant to be in the 'home' because they are too busy? We don't even listen to them when we are above 18 years old? How can a society flourish without wisdom and caring?
If a society is built based on carelessness, what is the result of that?

maybe you'll choose the West, but what would you feel right now if you know that there is no security when you get old, no one wants you when you are old, not even your family either? the cause of immature decisions may well be caused by weak bond between parents and children.