the order of Acceptance

I have lived 12 years in Australia, and I can say that I know what it's like to live there.

And before that, I lived in Indonesia for 18 years, and so I know what it's like to live here.

There are 2 kinds of life:
1. Complicated life (Australia)
2. Simple and easy life (Indonesia)

I am not going to explain into details why I have arrived to these conclusions, but I know it myself, if you really going to go through all of these, you will find everything that I will explain to be correct.

Complicated Life
A complicated life is where, in one day, after you've worked for 8 hours and then another hour of return travel, you may even need to drive yourself both ways, you arrive at a home where you have to wash you meat and vegies, cut, cook, eat, wash dishes, throw the rubbish, put clothings in the laundry, don't forget to wash your socks cos they are smelly, and then, you just hope that after all that terrible day, you don't have any broken appliance, because then you have to fix them. And if you want to ask a repairer to fix them, you will then need to pay a lot of money, cos labour is expensive. You better, buy a new appliance instead and get rid of your broken appliance. Appliance is one thing, but there are others like broken roof, among other things also. Because the costs of fixing a roof is tremendous, it is not rare that a surgeon, and even my once lecturer (dosen), had to go up the roof and fix the roof himself. If a surgeon had to go up the roof and fix the roof himself, do you think that's a simple and easy life or complicated life? He might have a surgery operation at 1 o'clock and he may fell from the roof and break his arm at 11, do you think that is something good? Do you think it is easy to find a surgeon that may be fully booked to operate on someone that may depend on his/her life from that surgery?

Simple and easy life
Simple and easy life is when after your 8 hour work on one day, you go home, and the dinner is ready, you eat, you take shower, and then you rest, watch tv, or any other relaxing activity that you enjoy, before you go to sleep at night. Therefore, home is where you enjoy yourself and quiet your mind. You even don't have to drive yourself to work, cos you have a driver.

Life is bliss, if you know how to live it. Only you, will make it complicated. Only you, will make it simple and easy. Simple and easy is better.

I find that in order for you to concentrate and produce a perfect result, you need to make every other thing as simple and easy as possible. (Although it also require talents for someone to perform really well in anything that they do.)

But in order to have a simple and easy life, you also need to know how to manage your life into a simple and easy life. This where the order of Acceptance comes in, or whatever else you might want to call it, this is where, you have to accept another human being into your life, and make her, as a servant, to be part of the family. Of course, in order to do that, you will need to completely trust her, and you have to choose CAREFULLY.

This is almost impossible in Western world, where, even your parents would require to take care of the family, even when they are already too old and fragile to take care of the home. And some of them are just sent to the home (panti jompo). You think that's simple? I don't know about that, but it sure is a lot of pain. I have been in a lot of homes (panti jompo), and they were complaining and crying that the family couldn't visit them. (because the amount of work their children have everyday is impossible). This is because, they are unable to take a servant for them. And so they don't have the time even to take care of their parents, and they had to send them to the homes (panti jompo). After the pain the parents had to live when they were young, non-stop, they are sent to the dry lonely desert of the home. (panti jompo)where they had to continue the pain by crying and complaining...

... and if you've lived in Australia for long enough, you will know what I mean and what it was like... nothing good can come out from my mouth about that country... how can it be from all of that above...? it's concerning everyone's life...

Do you know that if your servant live in your house 24/7, it even actually cut the transport costs and efforts? In western country, even only if you want to clean up the house for an hour, you would need to transport twice for one particular house and the transport could take 1 or even 2 hours, not only it require money, it also require time and effort.

After thinking for a while, you will arrive at the conclusion that, the only way of perfection in this life, is through the order of Interbeing. You need help, in order for you to achieve perfection in whatever you do. Working by halves is not going to cut it, not in any fields of expertise in life. You will end up having to repeat the work all over again because the result was not fully well done...

Sorry if I make this not too well done, cos I get busy nowadays with the work... I really hope that this is clear enough...